NO MORE CONTROLLING PEOPLE, NOT EVEN ME!March 9, 1999 3 out of 3 found this review helpful
Boundaries is a book, that has shown me how it should have been from the start. From how bonding takes place with parents, to how to stop letting people control you. If you were raised by an older sibling. You probably need to read this book. Most of the older siblings, have a stronger control on siblings, than parents. They have something to prove. They are in CONTROL. And, guess who is being controlled, and sometimes those controlling spirits, just don't dissapear. We have to recognize when we are being controlled. And, know what to do about it. Boundaries teaches you how to take control without feeling guilty or disrespectful. It shows you how take control of your own life, and understand that you don't have to be controlled.
"Christian" Psychology in 'Boundaries' Is NOT Christ-like.March 4, 1999 15 out of 36 found this review helpful
In spite of the glowing reviews I've read, personal investigation and review showed that though "Boundaries" contains many specific Bible verses as prooftext of the author's assertions, I couldn't help but realise how far off the authors interpretation of the references were from what even the most obvious Biblical text conveyed. Their references are too frequently partial and far removed from context, even misquoting some phrases. The authors are irresponsible in their mis-application of Bible text references. If Jesus is God, (and no historical or archaeological discovery has ever proven that he was not) then the claims he made were real, his death and resurrection meant what he said it meant, and the 'born again' Christian should be a shining example of grace and forgiveness, open to God's leading and direction and free from the rigid, graceless and legalistic "Boundary" standards Cloud and Townsend promote. His life and death demonstrate that Jesus provides a far better example of love, grace, correction and restoration for relationships than what 'boundaries' endorses. I suggest holding steadfast with Jesus' example, getting to know him better by prayer and reading the Bible. Plainly, be done with this 'Boundaries' before you begin.
For non-Christians tooFebruary 12, 1999 1 out of 2 found this review helpful
This book has a biblical, Christian basis, and the online reviews here refer to that. But don't be discouraged from reading it if you are not a Christian. I'm not - this meant that sometimes I needed a Christian friend to explain a few things to me. But there is much to be gained from the book even for non-Christians. I found things here that I did not find in other books.
This book will change your life if you let it.February 8, 1999 1 out of 1 found this review helpful
I was profoundly affected by this book. It is impossible not to evolve into a better, stronger, more-centered person after reading "Boundaries." Cloud & Townsend move you with succinct writing and scriptual references to dig deeper, take responsibility for and have control over your life, and to become the best You that you can be. I refer to the book often and consider it a second Bible.
Take control of your life.February 1, 1999 0 out of 1 found this review helpful
Does your "Yes" mean "Yes"? Does your "No" mean "No"? Do you say them willingly or reluctantly? The authors offer insight into where and how boundry patterns originate. The authors answer many questions. Examples: How do I set limits on others or myself? What is the purpose of emotions? Is it all right to feel angry or guilty? This book is a beginning. Now I have the knowledge, I am to go in wisdom and love and practice what I have learned.
