Customer Reviews:
 A book full of hope for those right in the midst of suffering. August 17, 2008
I have been meditating for years and appreciate Pema Chodron's practical wisdom for those with deep tendencies toward doubt and fear. No book can replace a live teacher and practice with others, but this book gives encouragement and clearly points out the way through doubt and fear. Hard as it is, I've learned that the most important teaching and the most vital experience of our lives is right in the midst of suffering. While all the book is insightful, I especially recommend chapters 6, 7, 9, and 18.
 Perfect, short chapters - easy to read in sections! August 9, 2008
This book is so full of beautifully worded advice, using stories from the author's life and is comprised of short chapters, so it's perfect to read one "lesson" and wait to absorb it before reading on. It's great bedtime reading...and the lessons are so rich, yet the author makes them seem possible to include in daily life.
This book can change how you see life! July 19, 2008
I just could not put this book down. It is so real and at the same time profund. Honest, pure and addresses all the questions you have in your mind about life. It makes you realise that where you are and what is happening in your life, no matter how dark and hopeless it might seem - that this is what life is and we could not appreciate and enjoy the great times in life if we didn't know what pain and suffering is. It is meant to be and the important thing is to enjoy and bask in ALL of it - cause this is it. As Pema says in the final chapter THE PATH IS THE GOAL. Profund!
thoughtful and inspiring June 24, 2008
When Things Fall Apart is another compilation and distillation of several of the Pema Chodron's lecture and talks, in this case focusing on dealing with pain, anger, fear, and other emotional challenges that face us daily. Chodron's inspiring and gentle Tibetan Buddhism approaches every challenge in a positive way; rather than recoiling, retreating into an emotional shell, or attempting to fend off issues, Chodron argues that the constructive, liberating and ultimately best approach is the opposite, to make friends with our fear, or pain, to investigate it, look at it from every angle, and we will find our fears shrinking, disappearing, leaving us with a richer and more positive life experience.
Much of the book's theme could be considered simply as letting go...letting go of our dependence on stability, our need for explanations and justifications, and so on. Life on earth is inherently unstable, and the things we initially most think we need or want or depend on are actually hindrances to us in living complete lives, acting as faulty crutches. By letting go of these things we come closer to what is real.
Chodron also addresses our responsibility to others, the benefits to others but also to ourselves of maitri, of giving of ourselves to all, regardless of the perceived payback.
Chodron's is a gentle, introspective Buddhism, and reading this book allows a glimpse of what it would be like to live a courageous, generous and fully emotionally independent life based on a full understanding of what is needed to enjoy real inner peace. Her voice, her stories, her approach all inspire us to follow such a path. It is easy to underestimate the effort and dedication required to do so. Our crutches *seem* to make life easier for us, and we resist letting them go. But with time, dedication, and consistent effort, dedicated students could find the same courage to live their lives in this kind of pure and positive way.
kathy in NM June 22, 2008
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I bought this book in 2001 for myself at A Cancer seminar and just got to reading it this year, 2008!! Maybe I was afraid to read it then?! My Dad had died in Feb 2001, my intimate relationship was yucky.
But in 2008 things were no better, but then better. I'm sorry for the strange contradiction but that is how the last 3 years have been.
The yucky relationship ended dramatically, but oh so worse my 37 year old son died of cancer!! But, my son, Mike gave me so much strength and courage thru his, that nothing for me can ever be as difficult, ever again.
To that end, I started reading Ms. Chodron's book and I feel such a heartfelt connection!!! She is most wonderful.
I love the practical Buddist way which is so close to the Native American way, I think.
My church, my spiritual connectedness is with Mother Earth, Father Sky, but Ms. Chodron's book also feeds my soul.
I bought these copies for friends.
I had wanted softbound copies, and it was not stated that they were not such. That is my only disappointment. I so dislike paperback.
I bought other books of hers In Boulder Colorado when I was there in May.
Thank you so much.
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