Location:Home » Books » Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring, responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery
Informations for Non-U.S. Customers, including Europe. Please read. Hot to Order Shipping
Publication Date:March 2, 2007 Availability:Usually ships in 1-2 business days
Editorial Reviews:
Product Description Discipline that you and your child will feel good about! Spanking and Time-outs do NOT work. At last, a positive discipline book that is chockful of practical tips, strategies, skills, and ideas for parents of babies through teenagers, and tells you EXACTLY what to do "in the moment" for every type of behaviour, from whining to web surfing. Includes 50 pages of handy charts of the most common behaviour problems and the tools to handle them respectfully! Parents and children today face very different challenges from the previous generation. Today's children play not only in the sandbox down the street, but also in the world wide web, which is too big and complex for parents to control and supervise. As young as aged four, your child can contact the world and the world can contact them. A strong bond between you and your child is critical in order for your child to regard you as their trusted advisor. Traditional discipline methods no longer work with today's children and they destroy your ability to influence your increasingly vulnerable children who need you as their lifeline! You need new discipline tools!
Discipline Without Distress...uh, kind ofJanuary 6, 2010 S Johnson(St. Petersburg, FL) 2 out of 2 found this review helpful
Discipline Without Distress? Well, I wouldn't go THAT far. I love the book though. Putting the advice into action hasn't been easy for me and has required a lot of change in my thinking. My 4 yr old son can be volatile and way out of control frequently; he's a wonderful child, but still. I ordered this book when NOTHING was working with disciplining him: spanking, yelling, time-outs, taking away toys, rewards etc. Over a short amount of time - and I mean very short - I could see in some situations how the 'techniques' worked and things had improved for both me AND him. Things I love about the book - it's focus on: building a loving relationship, advocating the child's independent self-evaluation/correction of undesirable behavior, and instilling confidence in me to discipline my child so he learns the true lesson in a situation. The book provides many tools and perspectives that are very helpful. I am very pleased with our progress so far (2 weeks into it now). What I don't like - is really only one thing - and that's the advice to avoid situations that can trigger behavior problems in the child (like eating out, visiting friends, etc). A lot of the situations she names are not avoidable for us. I just try to keep in-line with the overall direction and prepare the best I can with him in advance for the situations that I know tend to be difficult. Bottom line, I highly recommend the book - especially if you feel you've tried everything - and nothing seems to be working.
disappointedOctober 25, 2009 Liset Ruiz 2 out of 6 found this review helpful
i searched for days trying to find a book that matches my ideas and beliefs but this book has no discipline guidelines. it re-iterates the same concept of loving nurturing parent but no real methods for positive reinforcement. as a single parent i need all the help i can get and this book left me with lots of questions
Discipline with Distress Says It All!October 22, 2009 J. Lamberjack(Ohio) 3 out of 3 found this review helpful
As I was learning how to discipline my strong-willed 18 month old, I was reading a lot about how to discipline. Included in these books (I had NOT yet read Discipline Without Distress) were the benefits of spanking by very good and some Christian well intentioned people that I truly believe love children. However, as my son became more defiant, he seemed to be getting spanked more and more and it wasn't working. I was hardly doing more than tapping his bottom, but it was breaking his heart, breaking mine that I felt I had to do it, and it didn't seem to be solving his 'normal for age' behavioral issues. That is when I did some more searching on Amazon for some alternatives to spanking.
Discipline Without Distress has been well researched! It breaks down for you where your child is developmentally at each age and SEVERAL EXAMPLES of how to act in numerous situations. We parents like concrete examples! Strong-willed children or high needs children DO NOT HAVE TO BE SPANKED! It may take much more effort on the part of the parent to be patient and act, not react, but this book will help give you the tools you need.
As for my son, this book seems made for him. Using the techniques in this book, such as redirection for one, is 200% more effective than spanking ever was.
I would recommend reading or buying this book first, before you read ANY literature on pro spanking. Discipline Without Distress is so thorough, I doubt you will feel the need to read pro spanking books.
A must have for mindful parentsJanuary 23, 2009 April(Frederick, MD) I received my copy of Discipline without Distress yesterday in the mail. I've only read parts of it, I am loving it. It's so practical with tangible ways of how to handle certain situations. It's broken down by age groups and reviews what is reasonable and not at each age; common age-related problems and how to handle them; and how to help you manage yourself. I've read several books focused on discipline and this is by far the best.
A Wonderful Parenting Book; Focused on a Long-Term SolutionsDecember 21, 2008 Happy Reader(Los Angeles, CA) 2 out of 2 found this review helpful
I ordered this book as my 18 month old starting act out more. Arnall presents great ideas, along with a handy chart at the end of the book for specific techniques for various age groups and problem behaviors.
The techniques in the book very intuitive and what you instinctively know to be good parenting behavior but weren't totally sure how to implement. As she says in her book, the goal of raising a good child is to know that they will behave and do the right thing even when you're not around (and the risk of 'punishment' from you isn't there). In essence, she teaches you how to raise a child who is aware and makes the right decision because they have learned right and wrong from the behavior a parent should be modeling.
CERTAIN CONTENT THAT APPEARS ON THIS SITE COMES FROM AMAZON SERVICES LLC. THIS CONTENT IS PROVIDED ‘AS IS’ AND IS SUBJECT TO CHANGE OR REMOVAL AT ANY TIME.
